oitnb season 3 wishlist:
- poussey’s happiness
- alex fills in her eyebrows more thickly
- literally anyone utters the word “bisexual”
-Get rid of Larry no one fucking cares about Larry
I’ve always love dolly parton’s Jolene and I finally realized why
the song isn’t about a woman terrified of losing her husband to another, more beautiful woman
the song is about a woman transfixed with desire for a red haired woman named Jolene whose voice is “soft like summer rain”
and the only way she can voice that desire is through a plaintive entreaty not to “steal her man”
an entreaty during which “the man” is never described, while line after line praises Jolene’s beauty and allure
and in which the singer admits to Jolene “my happiness depends on you” and “I could never love again”
it doesn’t matter that after each stanza on Jolene the singer quickly inserts a hetero relationship
because it’s all there in the song, and how it’s not called Don’t Leave Me [insert generic man name] or Don’t Take my Man
it’s called Jolene
and you can’t sing it without lingering yearningly on her name over and over again
what ultimately terrifies the singer is not her man leaving her for Jolene
but what happens after the man has left
and she still can’t stop singing about Jolene
what happens when there’s no tenuous hetero relationship in place which can cloak her very real, very queer desire
for a woman whose “beauty is beyond compare”
bisexual means you can only like 2 things i’ve chosen drinking and wizards
I hate to be “that guy” who finds homoerotic subtext in just about anything, but I was just watching Brokeback Mountain and let me tell you
Anonymous said: what is a stupid girl blogging like you going to do to help ferguson?
IF WE ALL STAYED SILENT, IF WE ALL DECIDED TO THRIVE IN IGNORANCE, IF WE ALL DECIDED WE WERE STUPID IRRELEVANT PEOPLE AND NOTHING WE COULD DO WOULD HELP, IF WE ALL JUST SHUT UP, THIS SHIT WILL KEEP ON HAPPENING
THIS STUPID GIRL BLOGGING IS TRYING TO SPREAD AWARENESS WHICH IS THE BEST I CAN DO FOR A SIXTEEN YEAR OLD IN CANADA AT 3 IN THE MORNING
I APOLOGIZE THAT I CANNOT MAGICALLY FIX EVERYTHING WITH A REBLOG IM SORRY THAT THE ONLY THING THAT I CAN DO RIGHT NOW IS SPREAD AWARENESS AND IM SORRY YOURE AN IGNORANT ASSHOLE HAVE A NICE DAY FUCKER
Anonymous said: What are the signs of emotional abuse?
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
The last one is a killer and very important.